How do you decide who to request or accept as a buddy here on the community?
There are two reasons I send out a buddy request. Recently, the buddy requests I have sent out are usually for people I meet in chat blogs and I tell them in the blog I’ve sent the request. The other times I’ve sent out a request, it is because of a blog or comment to a blog that I found of like mind to what I believe. Before I send the request, I thoroughly read the member’s profile. I read any blogs they have written, pictures and crews and other buddies.
When I receive a buddy request that does not come from an active chat blog, I wonder why the member wants me as a friend. Was it because of a blog or comment or the profile picture I decided on that day? Is it my favorite driver, my gender, my age or location that drew them to me? When I check out the profile of the member sending the buddy request, I try to figure out what drew them to me. Some are easy to understand, other requests, I haven’t a clue.
In the last 12 hours, I got 4 buddy requests. Since I have not written a blog since the first week of May, it was not a blog that had them look at my profile. The requests did not come from anyone who recently posted a blog that I commented on. So what drew them to me and why did they go the extra step to make the buddy request?
The most recent request is from someone that is the same age as my youngest child and HATES my 2 favorite drivers. Now, I have friends that like different drivers, but this person went out of the way to type in bold, all caps that they “I HATE KYLE BUSCH AND SMOKE” in their profile. Reading the entire profile, I just don’t know why they want me as a buddy. We have very little in common.
So what do I do? Do I decline this buddy without explanation? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings when they receive the “you’re buddy request was declined” e-mail. At the same time, until I have more contact with or information about a particular member, why accept them? Is there something I don’t know about this person that would change my mind? If someone sends a buddy request to another member, should they also send a message to introduce themselves and explain what prompted the request?
So I ask you: What prompts you to blindly send a buddy request? How do you decide who to accept as a buddy?
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14 Comments
andylynn67ss
Jun 23 2008 23:38
Buddies
Same friends and same driver interests is one. LOL is another. When you read blogs that are funny you want to get to know that person. Not a big Kyle Bush fan, But a big Tony,Jr and Gordon Fan so I will send you a Buddy request and see what happens
Cheers
justkelly
Jun 16 2008 12:36
Discussions
I usually make a buddy request after entering into a discussion with someone that is lively..then I check out their profile and whatnot. Favorite drivers don’t matter to me..it’s all racing and racing is good…(but I’ve been a Smoke fan since the white car days, though…)
RowdyPenny
Jun 13 2008 06:06
I
don’t request blindly, usually it is someone I have chatted with on the blogs or commented on their blog or they on mine. I don’t do the chat rooms yet – I don’t usually have a lot of time when I am online so I do PMs and check the blogs. Like a lot of people say, I read their profile and go from there. I think I have only declined anyone whos profile says “I Hate __” or bashing another driver – whether its mine or someone elses.
18packAbs
Jun 13 2008 00:23
I just need some buddies
Isn’t that reason enough?
Wheels48HMS
Jun 12 2008 23:55
If anyone sends me a buddy request
I’ll look at their profile, and give them a once over. I usually accept them as a Buddy, no matter who their driver is! I will decline crew invitations. Especially if they don’t have anything to do with my drivers. Besides that, I don’t have time to keep up on all of the crews and buddies that I have. I have deleted “buddies” I haven’t heard from in a long time. Fortunately, I’ve only blocked one.
But like you, I will only send buddy requests to people who I meet in the blogs, and I’ve seen their stuff.
Smoke20Wins
Jun 12 2008 23:28
Requests
I’ve 7 right now & some have been still there for 2-3 months. Yes, it does make you wonder why & then when you make them a member or buddy, you wonder why you never hear from them again. It sorta reminds me of Star Treck TV show where they have this species called the Borg. They’re just collectives & nothing more.
KarinB
Jun 12 2008 23:16
Hey Pug!!
Your questions, in addition to some others, have been swirling around in my head too. I hope a lot of peeps leave a honest comment with their answers so we get a idea as to why peeps send buddy requests and how do peeps decide who to accept as a buddy.
I declined a lot of them because I did not know didley about them plus I did not want to have too many buds because I did not want to be a bud in name only. That did not work because I got a lot of PMs from the declined members asking me why I declined them. That kinda pissed me off and made me feel guilty at the same time. I did not feel like I had to explain myself to anybody but at the same time it is kinda a rejection and I did not want to hurt any body’s feelings. So then I said, what the hey and accepted every request. But I never hear from a lot of them, ever. So what is up with that? Why did they pick me only to never chat with me? I’m sure in some cases it’s a popularity contest as to how man y buddies some people can rake up. I don’t work that way. So I have several spring cleanings to get rid of the buddies I never hear from. Some of them actually come back for a second time and those get a PM from me with a few questions. I mean come on, how can anybody stay in contact on a regular basis with 100+ buddies? I very rarely send out buddy requests and I don’t even remember the last one I sent and why but it had to be something that impressed me about the person.
When I first joined this Community, I got a gazillion buddy requests. I guess I was fresh meat.
I did notice one thing: whenever I chat on a blog or write a blog about a subject that may be of interest to some peeps, I end up with a couple of new buddy requests. I wish with each buddy request, the requester would have a space to add why they want the person to be their buddy. I would like to know in each case I get a request, just out of curiosity.
There also seems to be a new trend where buddy requests become a package deal: somebody sends you a buddy request and if you accept it, you get multiple crew invites from this same person. I get that soooo many times. The last buddy request I accepted, the person sent me 3 crew invites, which I declined. Next day I got a PM from that person. She told me that she was confused because I accepted the buddy request but declined the crew invites. Geez. You cannot win around here. I treat buddy requests totally separate from crew invites. I guess by the length of my comment you can tell that this blog really hit home with me, huh. LMBO
Jimmie48Chad
Jun 12 2008 23:15
Well ......
I might have ‘accidentally’ pushed the REJECT twice
..... TRUTH BE TOLD – you have to draw the line somewhere – and they obviously didn’t read my profile – I clearly state that I’ll have NO part of H-A-T-E crews or members !! 
Kit_Kat
Jun 12 2008 23:09
Pug, first off
great blog. I realized that I take just about any buddy request. If I can get a chance to know a person that is fine. If not, that is ok too. If I can help a new person in any way, I will. Until someone proves me wrong, I’ll keep them as a buddy.
rogerls420
Jun 12 2008 23:05
PUG,
I too got that request, and acceped.Young Padawans!LMAO.I think I met you at one of Karin B’s shindigs, when I was one!LMAO. Great blog!